Posted by Clare on 9/11/2010, 10:51 am

Last night I came across this website. It filled me with relief that I am not the only one with this problem. I thought I would post a thread here and if anyone has any tips or advice I would be so grateful! I am a 25 year old woman who has had this problem for the best part of 10 years. It has got to the point where I feel it really affects my life and I am so fed up. Essentially for me: I find it impossible to pee on planes and trains due to two reasons. The movement and the anxiety of worrying how long I have been in the loo! I have only flown twice, both only 1 hour each due to Paruesis and on both occasions I was still desperate to pee and couldn't and the longer I spent in the loo the more stressed I got. Trains are the same. I usually plan my journeys so that I can get off at a station with a loo and then get the next train to my destination. Even last night I was due to go to a show in London which is a 90 minute train ride and I knew it would mean getting the last train home and I couldn't face the fear of being stranded if I got off or not being able to pee! I have a work awards evening next week which involves me flying 1 hour 25 mins and already I am in a state about it! I love flying but the stress of worrying I will need to pee and not be able to takes away the fun! It is this impending trip which prompted me to look online for help. I have not flown for 6 years because of this despite wanting to travel so much! I had a holiday in Wales last month due to being able to drive and stop regularly as I couldn't face the worry of flying but returned to work to an invite to this mini break which involves a flight, or 4.5 hours by train which would obviously be even worse! Movement used to be the only problem until a few months ago. I have no problem going to the loo in public toilets, except where there is a queue! If I know women are waiting to use the toilet and I need to be quick, no matter how desperate I am I just cant go! This recently happened at a show in London, only 3 toilets for a long queue of women during the interval. Not good. If there are lots of toilets and I don't feel people are timing me I am fine! I also find I need to pee more than most people. I can be desperate to go after even 15 minutes sometimes! Usually I average about 1 hour between needing the loo. Because I know I pee so much I try to drink as little as possible. Sometimes I will drink only three glasses of squash all day. I will only drink more when I know I can pee to my hearts content without embarrassment! I want to pee less and be able to travel! The excitement of the trip next week has already been overcome with the fear of being desperate to pee snd not being able to. I have read on other threads about people not peeing for 20 hours, wow! If I manage 2 hours for this flight without being in pain it will be a miracle. I know it is purely in my head. I have a friend who is a NLP Master Practitioner and he seems to think he can sort me out. I am not so sure. Clare x

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