Posted by Mark L on 11/11/2010, 11:17 pm, in reply to "Re: Forum Newbie"

Hi Clare, Firstly welcome to the message board. Im glad you are able to take on board Andrew's advice easily. Iv just remembered something else regarding queing for only 3 toilets or so... The person who watches you go in wont be waiting for you, as another toilet will be free in the meantime. This also applies to the person behind them. What I mean is that no one is waiting for you specifically as there are other toilets available - no one knows whos gone in where and how long they've been in there for. Although Iv made huge improvements since finding this site a year or 2 ago, I can relate to everything you have said. I used to struggle when I had friends over round my house even when iv been upstairs! Im sure you will easily improve. Speak to Andrew about going on a workshop. I know that this problem affects mainly men, but women have attended workshops before... Another option to consider is self catheterisation. From reaing your posts, I dont think you will need to go down this route but it is an option if anxiety does get the better of you. Basically you can carry catheters around with you in your handbag (they are very small for women) and you can quickly use them if you are having dificulty. Having them on you takes away the pressure as you know you have a failsafe, and because of this chances are you will never need to use them. Please keep us updated and hope your trip goes ok. Good move with the choice of seat! Mark

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