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Manchester Workshop 8-10th October Feedback

Posted by Mert on 10/10/2010, 4:17 pm

Hello all, just a quick one from me to say it was great to have met you all this weekend and I hope you all got as much out of it as you wanted. Keep in touch and well done on progress made!

Mert

Re: Manchester Workshop 8-10th October Feedback

Posted by mike on 11/10/2010, 7:00 pm, in reply to "Manchester Workshop 8-10th October Feedback"

Thanks Mert
This workshop was excellent and really helped me a lot. I was achieving things I never thought I'd be able to do.
The other people on the course were a great. You do wonder what other people will be like before you go, but you couldn't wish to meet a better bunch.
I hope we all stay in touch.
I have nothing but praise for the course. Everyone seemed to get the right level of individual attention and support, and although you don't pry into other peoples' detailed progress, I got the impression that everyone moved up significantly from where they started. Everyone started at different levels of what they could already do, but all seemed to get some real benefit from it.
Anyone out there suffering with this and who is apprehensive about going on the course, please do it, the only thing you'll regret is not having done it earlier.
There was a good range of ages, and as one of the older ones, it was good to see these younger guys doing something about their problem without spending decades with it, though you're never too old to try and sort it out.
Great course - great experience.

Re: Manchester Workshop 8-10th October Feedback

Posted by Ken on 11/10/2010, 8:06 pm, in reply to "Re: Manchester Workshop 8-10th October Feedback"

Hi
I absolutely agree -this was a brilliant course and anyone who is suffering and is trying to overcome this thing will benefit from going on the course. I gained so much and have so many new ideas to try that I feel very positive about it now. Having tried to overcome it myself by will power I recognise the need for other techniques and will, over the coming months put the time in in order to succeed. I know there is no miracle cure but needs to take it step by step. Like Mike my only regret is that I didn't come forward before. So if you're thinking about it my advice is don't delay - better the optimism of the action than the pessimism of the thought. It was great to meet you guys and hope we keep in touch. all the best.
Ken

Re: Manchester Workshop 8-10th October Feedback

Posted by Jonny on 11/10/2010, 11:28 pm, in reply to "Re: Manchester Workshop 8-10th October Feedback"

I can only echo the sentiments of Mike and Ken. Nerves and apprehension were at an all time high driving to Manchester, but once I arrived and met a perfectly normal and friendly bunch of people, all in the same boat, I was instantly put at ease. Firstly, merely being able to talk about this condition which I had bottled up inside me for years, and share stories will fellow sufferers, was a hugely liberating experience. Then making progress during desensitising sessions was an incredible feeling. Thanks to Mert and Andrew's superbly organised workshop, I have come away from the weekend firmly believing that I can beat this condition as long as I work hard on executing my step by step plan.

Finally, I have also come away from this weekend with a great new set of friends. I hope we all stay in touch.

I cannot recommend this weekend enough to guys thinking about going on a workshop. I, just like every other person who signed up for the workshop, was nervous to hell beforehand but chuffed to bits afterwards. Go for it.

Jonny

Re: Manchester Workshop 8-10th October Feedback

Posted by Huw on 12/10/2010, 3:59 pm, in reply to "Re: Manchester Workshop 8-10th October Feedback"

Hi everyone who is reading this,

Upon discovering the UKPT about a year ago I was in a position where I could not urinate in any toilet that had others present; this had a very limiting effect on my life.
I had read people's recommendations of the workshop, but was too apprehensive to give it a go.
Having started a new job, I bit the bullet and plucked up the courage to sign up.
I have been back for two days and I can say that it was one of the best decisions I have ever made.

upon arriving, Andrew made me feel completely at ease, Mert created a homely atmosphere and the group bonded in no time at all, there was really nothing to be nervous about!
It was great to be able to comfortably break the silence with a smashing bunch of people.
By the end of the weekend, I felt I had a whole group of new friends that I now shre a unique connection and some great memories with; and some new life skills, including the ability to use the urinals in a busy public toilet (something I could only dream of achieving) !
For anybody who feels they are suffering as I was, I highly recommend the workshop, there really is light at the end of the tunnel.

Overall it was a very positive experience, and although I am missing being there, I know the only way is up, and I have been given the tools to get there.
I would like to thank Andrew and Mert for all your help, I really appreciate the time you put in to help us all, and I wouldn't have made this progress without you, you both deserve a medal (gold of course!). This weekend will live on in our memories for many years to come.

Huw

Re: Manchester Workshop 8-10th October Feedback

Posted by Joe on 13/10/2010, 10:47 pm, in reply to "Re: Manchester Workshop 8-10th October Feedback"

Well my turn i guess,
This might come as a suprise but.....pretty much all of what has been said above is exacly the same for me!! Nervous as hell on the friday, wondering whether to bail out whilst knowing inside this was the chance to do something positive in my life, thought i was going nuts driving up the m6! But, when i walked into that room and saw the people i did, i would never guess in a million years they had the same problem as me, i mean, there were some pretty cool looking guys!!
The socialising was a great thing for me, being able to go out and not worry about planning the next quick escape to the bogs without your mates following you was great, and i can proudly say those guys i saw when i walked into that meeting room turned out to be some of the nicest guys i've ever had the pleasure of meeting, and hopefully we will stay in touch because i would love to call you guys mates.
Andrew and Mert truly were the stars of the show, completely unselfish people who give up their own time to help others when i'm sure they have other things they would like to do, can't thank you guys enough.
Don't really know what else to say, but if you are reading this thinking of doing a workshop but feel worried, get this; when i went up on the friday i was just hoping the time would fly and i'd be home before i knew it on the sunday and it would be done, but if i had the chance to meet up with all the guys and do it again this weekend, i would!! Just for the crack ha ha!! Go on do it you will NOT regret it.

Re: Manchester Workshop 8-10th October Feedback

Posted by Martin on 20/10/2010, 6:08 pm, in reply to "Re: Manchester Workshop 8-10th October Feedback"

Hi,

again I would echo most of what Mike, Ken, Jonny, Huw and Joe said. For me, the workshop was fantastic. It has really helped me.

Like most of the lads, I was pretty nervous before the workshop. I didn't know what to expect but Andrew and Mert helped to put me at my ease straight away. Meeting the other lads the first night also helped a great deal as they were all pretty sound lads. Within an hour or two I began to feel more normal and optimistic about overcoming this problem. 3/4 hrs before the workshop I was totally on edge but this soon passed and my anxiety decreased dramatically as the weekend progressed. Mert and Andrew gave some really useful guidance and information and the encouragement from them and the other lads really helped a hell of a lot throughout the weekend. By the end of the weekend I felt that I had began to get on top of this problem and I felt far more optimisitic for the future. I would like to thank Andrew and Mert for their hard work and effort. It is amazing what ye do. Also I would like to thank all the lads for being there with me as the support we gave each other was immense and I hope we can keep in touch as ye are a great bunch of guys.

For anyone reading this who is considering going on the workshop I would say 'go for it' as I'm pretty sure you will not regret it. It has certainly helped me.

Martin

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