Posted by LondonGuy on 29/2/2012, 1:46 am, in reply to "Re: A newbie (frustrated and fed up!)"

Thanks guys for the advise and everything. It is good to know we are all in the same boat - as when you are out and have to pee and are stood there in front of a few other guys who are coming in and out and you are stood there not going you really feel alone! I have tried the last week set myself challenges. i have thought to myself ''if I pee great if not - well I can go to another one'' - and have tried to use urinals in quiet toilets. Most of the time no success and I have had to wait for a stall to become vacant in the end! Embaressing and frustrating to say the least! BUT yesterday and today I had my iphone in listening to music at the urinal- and I focused my mind on thinking of the ''upcoming lyrics'' and then thinking of the album the song is in and what other songs are on there (I know this sounds REALLY REALLY silly) but it was my attempt to stop worrying and refocus my mind and guess what - I started peeing! It WAS after maybe 3 mins and was a very quiet toilet with noone around but I was relieved I could go! What's more another bloke walked in and whilst I stopped for about 10 seconds I then started again (althought had to like ''push it out'' lol. I know it sounds just a normal thing, but it made me have more hope and more confidence. This was a really quiet toilet but hopefully when I get more confidence and stop the anxiety I will be able to pee anywhere I need to (well maybe not ANYWHERE but u know!) Hope you guys are doing alright with it! Cheers, LondonGuy

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