Posted by Pete on 20/12/2011, 5:11 pm, in reply to "No progress/how it started"
Message modified by board administrator 20/12/2011, 6:25 pm

Hi Mark, Being able to laugh about it always helps ! Here are one or two suggestions from my own experience. First, don't look back. You are where you are and you need to go forward, not dwell on causes or what might have been. Start your progress by reading and acting on Stephen Soiffer's book "Shy Bladder Syndrome" and then go on one the UKPT Workshops in London or Manchester, which ever is nearer to you. You could begin by throwing away the bottle and getting out of your car to pee by the roadside in a lay-by. Lots of drivers do, with the car doors open as a shield ! A lot of people find peeing in the open air is easier than in an enclosed space indoors. You don't say how old you are, so remember that eventually most men find that pee-flow decreases with age, especially with an enlarged prostate. If you are worried consult your GP, but go armed with some UKPT literature as many GPs don't know much about paruresis. Finally, does your wife know about your problems with peeing ? If not, tell her (see the recommended book or information on Ukpt site for how to set about it). Getting her "on your side" can make a lot of difference. Best of luck and keep posting. Pete.

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