Posted by Pete(another one!) on 20/12/2011, 9:04 pm, in reply to "Re: No progress/how it started"
Message modified by board administrator 20/12/2011, 10:41 pm

I for the best part of 20 years have tried to look back to the root of the problem and I have never been able to remember the start of it all. But the root cause is in a way the same for all of us in a sense that our subconscious mind has taught us to sense a threat so to my mind if It suddenly came to me then it would not make a single difference to the level of my Paruresis. This is what has helped me in no particular order: read all the c.b.t components on the UKPT website. Try a workshop ( I done two, amazing) what have you got to lose, give this thing time, remember that this condition is a bodily reaction i.e it doesn't define you as a person in any way we just rack our brains and get upset,angry and depressed about it but when it comes down to it it is simply your brain shutting up shop so the thing to do is start somewhere where it can happen (I couldn't go anywhere standing up and in most places not at all) , try to build from there using the c.b.t approach. And when you have negative thoughts about what people are thinking about you try to imagine yourself in someone's shoes who doesn't have shy bladder, are they thinking what you think they are? and finally think about telling someone I told my wife and that has helped me and she has been a pee buddy.she was not at all judgmental. I hope this helps. Pete

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