Posted by Peter Newton on 30/9/2011, 2:56 pm, in reply to "My Plight....."

Hi Dave, There is nothing new or unusual about your history. Most people with our "problem" can tell the same story, but you do, at least, know that you are not the only sufferer. I am much older than you and went through my whole life, until a few years ago, believing that I alone had this "peculiarity". Imagine my relief at finding this site and the help it has provided. Take my advice and go to one of the UKPT Workshops as soon as possible. There is absolutely nothing to be scared of and you will be met with complete sympathy and understanding from both the organisers and fellow paruretics. I venture to say you will even enjoy it ! You will certainly come away feeling better about yourself and be equipped to make progress in handling your problems. I myself have ceased to worry about needing the loo when away from home and can usually manage to use a urinal, or in crowded conditions I sometimes am happier in a cubicle. I cannot remember the last time I had a complete lock-up. If this can happen at my age, it can surely happen to a "youngster" like you ! And as a preliminary read Stephen Soiffer's book "Shy Bladder Syndrome" - brilliant. Good luck, Pete.

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