Posted by Pete L on 10/6/2009, 8:51 am, in reply to "Re: Newcomer"

Hi Gus Mark is right, no one actually cares about what another person is doing, especially in a toilet. We all know how it feels though, it's difficult when your thoughts are taken up by 'people are staring'! Albeit, this is going to affect different people in different ways. I may not be the worst or least affected, but I know I suffered a traumatic childhood, with my father yelling at me in front of people and then saying 'stop crying, people are staring at you'. Hmmm, now I wonder, did my problem start as a result of this?!!!! Several years ago,I went to the doctors to discuss my lack of ability to go out anywhere without feeling anxious. Even a trip to the shops was a difficult one! The doctor set the process of seeing a mental health nurse, who eventually pointed me in the direction of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). Through the 6 sessions, CBT really helped change my thought pattern. It is not always plain sailing though, if I go somewhere new, with unfamiliar settings, I get a litle edgy. However, my partner and I have now realised that, when we go somewhere for a second time, I am completely 'chilled out'! The workshops provide the same (from what I read), plus you are with people who are the same. I am imagining that the experience will be overwhelming to say the least, but I am sure, as so many have already said, the end result will be worth it. When I first looked at this site, and read references to the workshop, I thought 'there's no way I could meet up in a strange place, with people who I didn't know'! - However, following time spent on this site, the words of encouragement, words of advice (sincere advice!), continuing support and let's not forget our old friend HONESTY, I just completely changed my thoughts and booked the course. And what's more, I am looking forward to it....really looking forward to it! Keep reading Gus, be assured that everyone on this site is here for the same reason, and, If you are able to, get to a workshop. Take care mate Pete L

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