Posted by Andrew on 2/4/2009, 6:18 pm, in reply to "Newcomer"

Hello Jan Welcome! I am sorry you were a bit put off by the male dominance; it is a result of there being so many more men affected, for obvious reasons. Having said that I am glad that women do post, because some men feel that paruresis makes them less of a man; I tell them that it cannot be the case, if only because I cannot say to a woman "Do you find paruresis makes you less of a man!". We have also run mixed workshops; these have always worked well. The fact that everyone has a shy bladder in common overrides everything else. But back to you: dont worry about the length of a post; that is what this board is for: let it all out. If it makes you feel better, split it over several posts; but get it out. The incidence of UTIs is odd because tho women get them, men do not seem to; any ideas why anyone? (on a separate thread please). You are right about addressing the problem asap; there always seems to be a good reason to put it off, and then.... However it is still worth your while to address it now, in order to reduce your level of paruresis and make life easier for you, and your fiancee. See the two postings about workshops at the top of the page. Look forward to hearing from you Andrew

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