Posted by Mark on 9/3/2009, 9:09 pm, in reply to "Re: Newbie How It All Began..."

Hi Matty, Well done for finding this site and for putting up your first post. Its very reassuring to read other peoples 'similar' stories. Unfortunatly I dont think it matters how your paruresis started, so to cure it you will have to go down the same route as everyone else. The good news is that you're only young and you havent let it stop you from doing anything yet. So now is a good time to tackle this. Make sure you have a read of as many posts as you can, there is some great advice about de-sensing (getting used to urinals) in mine and 'Geoff P's posts. Here are a few you should read: http://members.boardhost.com/paruresisUK/msg/1228235179.html http://members.boardhost.com/paruresisUK/msg/1225305818.html http://members.boardhost.com/paruresisUK/msg/1224187134.html Also, start up your own blog so you can keep a diary of how you are getting on and also so we can get encouragment from reading it. The best thing you can ever do to help this condition, is get onto a workshop. Email Andrew for detalis of the next one (they take place in London or Manchester). Before I went to one, I couldnt use a cubicle when out and about with my other half. After the workshop, I can always use a cubicle anywhere, even if there's just one. I also managed to use a urinal in a large WC at a very busy service station. Take care, Mark

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