Hopefully I haven’t left it too late to make this post.
It occurred to me that many of you out there will be asked to go on Christmas work do’s and nights out for Christmas with friends before Sunday and will be having anxiety about your paruresis.
Here’s my latest story and I recommend you give my methods a go.

I too went out to a Christmas do (albeit an early one this year) on December 2nd.
It’s an annual Christmas do in the same pub, in the same reserved dining area with the same group of people invited.
The pub has a bar in the next room and another room further on and at the back of the pub by the entrance to the gents is a table and seating area big enough for about nine.
The pub wasn’t packed but there was rather a lot of men there which obviously increases the chances of one or even two men using the gents at the same time as me.
The trouble with the area we were all in is that you can’t see if the gents are being occupied which can generate a level of anxiety in itself.
So I made a plan before I left home and it’s a routine I’ve gotten into since attending the Ukpt workshops.
I had a coffee and after I’d drunk that I had a trip to the loo at home around 90 minutes before I was due to leave, then another drink of coffee or water.
My level or urgency had grown and I was ready to use the loo before I left but I didn’t use it.
I retained the level of fluid and then got a pint when I arrived at the pub.
Urgency increasing and for the four hours or so the do lasted and about four pints along the way, I went to the gents six times, six immediate successes.
I used the workshop method we did with water but instead with alcohol and I saved up urine each visit to the gents instead of draining off.
This trick helps maintain a good amount of urine in the bladder and therefore a good level of urgency for repeated trips to the gents.
There is one cubicle in the gents and three urinals with no dividers.
All of my successes were at the urinals, two where I and another gent were using the urinal at opposite ends and the other four where i used an end urinal, the opposite urinal was or got occupied and another gent came in and used the middle one or I opted to use the middle urinal alone and a gent came in and used the one next to me (our anxiety tells us “what will that gent be thinking of me using the middle urinal when I’m alone?” Post-workshop tells me the guy wouldn’t know I was alone when I went into the gents so therefore would just assume the urinals were occupied when I went in - that’s if he thought anything at all! This is rationalising the situation and pre-paruresis we wouldn’t have thought that anyone coming in was thinking about anything except relieving himself and let’s face it, alcohol can create a sudden or desperate need to urinate so that would be all on that person’s mind).
Some of the men were rather drunk and would speak to you when they stood by or next to you and some were from the same party as each other and both spoke to me.
This generated a relaxing atmosphere and a couple of laughs.
I had a really good time at the do and came away being able to document six further successive results in my diary which made me very happy indeed!
To anyone reading this and following the tips, good luck, enjoy getting the opportunity to practice and have a more enjoyable night out than usual!