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After loading up on water I went to my local shopping centre on Saturday, and after mixed results due it either being too easy I.e no bugger about! Mixed in with a bit of faking it at the urinals due to toilets being overcrowded I stood with cubicle door slighty open on the verge of going but still locked up my what a pain in the arse! When suddenly a guy bursts in and to be fair bless he was polite then seconds later I went! I think I locked the door before going, but a few weeks ago I would of froze for sure, because any paruretic at my stage will know that when a guy bursts in it is normally goodnight nurse and I finished the session going at the urinal when the toilets were empty Wen't out for a spot of fishing on Sunday and weed twice behind my fishing position and there were two guys fishing either side of me both about 20 yards yards away with there backs to me and again I am sure that when I started trying to overcome this that that would not be possible. Today I had more success by urinating in a cubicle with door slightly open managing to PEE before a person left the room ! I hope that this doesn't seem like I am gloating, I have had this condition I think probably since early puberty and until I googled can't use toilet in public or something like that back in January This year I like many others thought it was just me and had never heard of paruresis or shy bladder and neither had my G.P( about 4 years ago) and neither had the local hypnotherapist! That does not mean that these professionals can't help. I just wish I would of heard shy bladder before now.cheers to all Pete.
Excellent news! And you are NOT gloating; stories like this give others the encouragement that you CAN move forward with beating this condition. And it is important for you to be able to share this with others as well. So keep on chippping away and keep on sharing the ups and down on the way.
Notive everyone how the guy who burst in on Pete in the cubicle was polite (i.e. did not say "what are you doing here!"), and that the fishermen just got on with fishing unawares and/or uninterested in what you were doing.
Hi andrew thanks for the reply you and the others who try to help people are fantastic! Apart from my wife no one else knows. talk about a secret trauma.I am not sure sometimes about my urgency levals I will have to carry on working on that.I think" that's gotta be a 7-8" when mabye it's not?and that can be after an hour and 1 litre (approx) of water or am I pushing too high up my limits?who knows What I do no is that I feel better about all this since finding this brilliant website. thanks again Pete P.s sorry about the spelling! Wife will nag!!
Good news then, well done for doing something about it and letting us know. How often do you go out de-sensing? This website really does help you feel at ease so read as much as you can.
Are you planning on attending one of the workshops?
Hi Mark, I go out to my local shopping centre once a week, and I try at work when I can. I read somewhere that you do have extra workshops at times. When is the next available one? Im near London. Is it not until September ? Regards pete
Yep London September, no date yet. Pete, if you email me, address at top of page, I can send you a notification when it is set up
cheers
Andrew
Re: A little bit of joy
Posted by The Therapist on 30/5/2011, 5:06 pm, in reply to "A little bit of joy"
Its surprising how few therapists know of pauresis. When I was doing my CBT training I was with 10 counsellors, psychotherapists and other mental health professionals and not one of them had heard of it. One of them even laughed when I mentioned it. (I was not impressed as I still had a significant level of AV at the time). My hypnotherapy supervisor also had never heard of it.
The problem is that it is shame and embarrassment that drives this condition so noone wants to talk about it even with therapists. A big part in my recovery was being able to tell people. It helps you realise that its not the big deal that you think it is