Posted by Nick on 25/7/2017, 3:08 pm, in reply to "My story and suggestion"

Dear Mark I'm Nick and you can find my complete story in this forum. Me too, I've been paruretic since my early childhood. Yes your idea is good, I do not know how to collaborate but I can do my contribution. I live in Italy. However, don't renounce to win your paruresis. Gradually, you can do it. As far as I'm concerned, the first good experience was one time my father positioned himself next to me in a public toilet (there was simply a wall against which you were supposed to urinate!) and I was able to void my bladder because I felt protected by him (after I had retained my urine for many hours, my bladder was on the point of bursting out, but I could not urinate alone in that toilet!) . It was as if he were a shelter, and I could urinate even if at a certain point another man entered the toilet. It was the first time I succeded. I was 18. (Now I'm 54) After that, what helped me a lot was to urinate in the open air in the mountains. At the beginning, I had to find very hidden places to urinate, but little by little I fouund out that I could urinate in more "public" places in the woods of the mountains. Recently, I came into this site and I had a fruitful mail exchange with Andrew. I started desensitization by myself and I can assure you I obtained good results. Now I have also asked one of my best male friend if he can help me, simply by standing next to me when I'm trying to urinate. He's a very closed friend and he said Yes. We haven't yet started practising, but I think it is a good idea to share your problem with a male friend you care a lot for, a very close and trustful friend. He can help you a lot in my opinion. Keep in touch Nick

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