Posted by Tonio on 28/8/2013, 6:02 am

Hi, I apologise for this long post but I feel so up against it I really don’t know where to turn. I’m 58 had AP since age 8 when at a friends party his mum insisted on standing next to me in the toilet in case I peed on the floor. Went for several bladder tests a few years ago following bladder pains, where the urologist said I had a ‘big floppy bladder’ but didn’t know why though possibly through repeated retention. He said it shouldn’t be a problem but that it probably explained why I had trouble in urinating because it would reduce the urge. Back at the doctors he sent me for a colonoscopy to identify the source of the pains but the results found nothing malign so diagnosed an irritable bowel. I have learned to live with it but I have now discovered my 14 year old son is showing signs of AP. I can’t talk to him about it, I wouldn’t know what to say, but I am distraught. My wife is aware superficially about my condition but doesn’t realise how severe it is and I can’t talk to her about my son as I’m worried she may think its learned behaviour from me. I can’t get away to attend a course so I was wondering if anyone has any ideas of a way forward. My questions are: Will de-sensing work if I have got a damaged bladder? Can I learn to de-sense without attending a course? Is there any intervention I can try to prevent my son’s AP worsening? Thanks

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