Posted by Andrew on 25/8/2012, 1:35 pm, in reply to "Just cant go"

Hi guys Welcome to the UKPT forum and website. Hopefully you feel a bit better having found that you are not unique, and that this is a recognised anxiety-based condition. You are right Bill about bullying in the school toilet being the cause of this for you. You might be surprised at how many blokes can trace it back to that. Suddenly the toilet becomes and unsafe place, and when there you are on a hair-trigger , expecting any footstep to be an approaching bully. By now your subconscious associated a toilet with a anxiety, causing iit to shut down the ability to pee (it is explained better on our website). As for the ability to pee only a small amount: my guess is that the urethral sphincter, which is normally a weak muscle cos it only has to keep the urethra closed for a short time while its “owner” is looking for a place to go, has in you become over developed (it is a muscle); also holding it closed for a long time means it can be difficult to get it to relax fully. Think about carrying a heavy suitcase a long way; when you put it down, you cant uncurl your fingers straightaway can you? Same thing here. So the partially opened sphincter restricts the flow of urine. Can I persuade you all to go to our website, the link is at the top of the page, and then click on “enter website”. Take the time to read through all the info and advice there. Then get back on this forum, or to me by email (the support address is also at the top of the page) to ask further questions. The UKPT’s main activity is the running of weekend workshops, which most guys find liberating. You wont necessarily be cured, but you will be able to “perform” better, feel better about yourself, and will take away a plan of action to practice re-learning how to pee in public. You can read the feedback from guys who have already attended a workshop by looking for “Feedback” threads on this forum. So get reading, get asking, and get planning to attend a workshop Cheers Andrew

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