Posted by Mark L on 6/1/2011, 11:06 pm, in reply to "Re: New to the forum - looking to get my problem fixed"

Hi David, I struggled with leaving the cubicle door open, so heres what I did: Lock the cubicle door and start the flow whilst standing up. Once your in full flow, reach behind you and unlock+open the door. This will get you accustomed to being in that situation. Its good that you have tried when your partner is in the same room, good on you! For what its worth - when I first started seeing my girlfriend, I was dreading spending the day with her then coming back to my parents. I Wasnt able to use the loo even with her downstairs whatching tv and me upstairs! So I said that im having a shower and that relaxed me enough to go. Spending alot of time round hers enabled me to improve my condition as I was able to start going at her place. Self cathing hurts the first time you do it, its not very pleasant. BUT once you repeat it, you get used to the feeling and it doesnt hurt so much but is more of a discomfort as it goes in. Once it is all the way in its fine. It takes about 10 secs to pierce the lube pouch, another 10-20 seconds to insert slowly, and about 30 secs + to drain (as its a narrow tube). I think that once the flow starts, you can pull it out and resume normall flow thus speeding it up. You can easily fit 4/5 in your pocket as they fold up. Keep telling yourself not to feel embarrassed about heading to a cubicle. Remember that you have this condition and its not your fault. You are just simply dealing with it any way you can. Everyone would do the same if they were in your position. Im glad to see that you will consider a workshop in the near future, but dont let the fear factor put you off. I was dreading going and really nervous, but everyone else is in the same position. I just went for it and was glad I did. Hope some of that helps you! All the best, Mark

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