Posted by Nigel on 9/9/2009, 5:04 pm, in reply to "There are others like me!!"

Obviuosly its the age 54 that causes this !! I'm 54 as well. What a relief it is when you discover that this thing is a common phobia. I kick myself every time I avoid stuff just because of it. Often when avoiding is just not possible I get through the day some how (see below). I try to tell myself to stop avoiding drinking, travel, meetings, events but when the time comes round I often can't face it all and make an excuse. I think we have all been where you are Ken, the absolute total frustration of standing there with a bursting bladder knowing that it just won't work. Last week I was in France on a business trip (on my own). In a cafe I needed a pee and got the key from the bar to use the toilet. As soon as I went in there some guy is rattling the door handle to use the loo. Obviously under pressure my bladder refused to play ball and I had to leave and could not go back because I could not ask for the key a second time! Had to travel one hour on the train fully bursting untill I found a quite cubicle at the airport. Anyway the point is I did get through the day, another business trip completed. I really must get to a workshop this winter and see if I can make some progress. Welcome to the board. I think it's great to read other peoples stories. You are not alone. PS In France whilst in the quiet cubicle guy comes into the totally empty toilet and pees and leaves from the adjacent cubicle. ....... There are lots of us out there!

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