Posted by Andrew on 19/11/2008, 11:51 am, in reply to "Re: How to progress?"

Hi Rich Affording the workshop: if you read the fixed posting about workshops, you will see that the UKPT does not let lack of money stop anyone attending; so you CAN attend one. Seeing a counsellor: by all means do, but do not expect them to be able to help; I suspect they are more used to dealing with things like depression, bereavement, relationships and money issues. Choose a male counsellor. Peeing: you say that if you were already peeing you would be able to restart after about 10-20 secs; that is good and is very common. Psychological research shows it is very common for men to slow down or stop when another person arrives. As for being interrupted before you can gt started. Could you read that part of our website on the component of a CBT approach - here is the link http://www.ukpt.org.uk/first_visit/first_visit_Components_of_a_CBT_Based_Approach.htm Read it all, but pay special attention to section 19 on Faking It. It is important that you find a large quietish toilet somewhere and get use to being there, and to standing minding your own business doing nothing. Going in say six times at intervals of 5 minutes is good. The idea is that (1) you get bored of it, and (2) yoU realise that no alarms go off, and no-one cares. One guy tried it for 20 minutes to see if anyone would notice, and no-one did. When you have done that, then read the bit on graduated exposure (desensing) and fluid loading; again go to a quietish large toilet and practice; start with choosing a urinal well away from anyone else, and as you get used to it, reduce the separation. You CAN crack this :-) Come back with comments Andrew

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