Posted by Pete on 8/2/2008, 12:55 am

At age 84 I have recently discovered from this excellent site and other information on the web that I am not the peculiar freak that I thought I was and that there are many men with the same problem. I have been pee shy almost as long as I can remember although I think I can pinpoint an unfortunate event, probably when I was about 4, which may have triggered it off. My life has been in many ways shaped - even ruined - by this disability, particulaly, as you can imagine, in my profession as a teacher The young men using this site should realise that they are fortunate in knowing that they are not alone and that help\is available. Go for it - you have a lot of life still in front of you and your condition can improve. For my part, my new knowledge has come as a profound relief - very different from when I sought medical help in the past. I was not made aware that I was one of many, and no real help or support was forthcoming. However, in the last week I have been trying some of the self-help suggestions and techniques I have found on the web and in Stephen Soifer's book, with encouraging success. I have been able to pee in a public toilet every day this week - five times in a urinal bowl and once in a trough. Not many people around though, but a good start and really unprecedented. No misfires either, so, you young guys, with the right determination and advice, I'm sure things will improve for you. If anybody feels able to communicate with me - talk, meet or e-mail - I would be very pleased and grateful. Thanks and all the best. Pete.

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