Hi Jon. From what you’re saying I gather the problem is what’s called in the Ukpt as “the nature of the person” and it’s one of the ten hierarchies of challenge.
This is where you find it difficult to pee if someone you know is in the same proximity as you are.
As Andrew suggests, urinate on the porcelain and not the water. That’s what I’ve always done pre-a.p anyways as I value my privacy. You won’t be the only man that does this.
I always find it very distracting to hear other men urinating in the water and difficult to switch off from.
Some may just hear what you’re doing but some might switch on and off from hearing you because as Andrew has said their minds might be too pre-occupied with other thoughts.