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Just tell your story. This is a safe place, no-one other than guys with shy bladder read this forum. Its an opportunity to get it off your chest to people who understand what you have been through and are going through.
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Andrew i
Re: for Thomas
Posted by Roy on 29/10/2016, 11:47 am, in reply to "for Thomas"
Oh to be seventeen again.Hi Thomas read your note and it says you have had Paruresis three years .Now believe it or not this is a very short time for people on this site.Normally I push the practice of self catheterisation forward to other sufferers but in your case because of your young age and relative short time you have suffered I would strongly recommend you consider one of Andrews excellent weekend courses as you should have an excellent chance of beneffiting from it because you should not be too set to in your toilet habits. Roy
Re: for Thomas
Posted by Thomas on 2/11/2016, 12:02 am, in reply to "Re: for Thomas"
Hi, so I was around the age of 14 that I remember how far back this goes.
I don't know what it it is, or why it has occurred I only really realised two years ago that I have had major bathroom issues.
I find it hard urinating when I'm in the same room as someone else. It doesn't matter if it's my best friend or partner either. I wasn't too release, I want too pea freely but there is alwats something holding it back like it won't allow me too have a normal life. A couple of years ago I went sick at work explaining too them that I have major toilet issues. Aged 27 now. And having checks with checks for bladder stones, cameras up my uretha and anus. Is not pleasant .
I try too tell myself it is all in my head. But can't let it out of my system.
I have used all sorts of prescribed medications and counting and focusing on tiles at a urinal..
It got so bad a bout 18 months ago i. Broke down in front of all my civilian friends. People that don't understand how hard it is to do some that is oh so natural.
I do not feel like I can do my work, that their is always an act of pressure. People staring at me.
I have too pass a compulsory drugs test at work, but I can only do this with tthe use of a cubicle as I can't get myself going.....
My diet and lifestyle has changed so much these days. As doctors have said not too. Drink caffeine, pop or Alcohol. I don't feel like I can socialise with out being watched.
Re: for Thomas
Posted by Andrew on 6/11/2016, 2:00 pm, in reply to "Re: for Thomas"
Hi Thomas
So glad you could write this, and on this forum, as we all understand exactly what you are going through. When you say it is all in your head, you are right, however it does not make it any easier to bear.
So where are you, and can you get along to one of our weekend workshops? If you read the postings on this forum contains the word "feedback", you will see how helpful the participants found it. It would be the start of your recovery.