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Since my last post, ~I've now finished my 8 CBT therapy sessions and have made some small progress. I've been into town a couple of times and had a go at using cubicles with the door open, which was very nerve wrecking. I've also been doing this at work, although at work no-one else ever seems to come in at work so I'm finding it slow going trying to overcome my fear/nerves using public toilets with the door open when others are around. I've put my name forward for the workshop, but in the mean time I would like to continue making progress and wondered if there's anyone in the Hampshire area that's in a similar postion and would be interested in working together.
Re: Help Group
Posted by Andrew on 8/3/2016, 8:39 pm, in reply to "Help Group"
Hi Nigel,
Its a big jump to using cubicles with the door open for peeing. The result is as you say nerve-wracking. There is an intermediate level, which is to ensure you do not need to pee, and to go in and follow the peeing procedure, but not peeing. You may say this is odd, but the reason is to reduce anxiety to a manageable level. If you can do this "faking" until you become more comfortable in a cubicle and not peeing, you will then feel more able to start drinking and peeing in that situation.
The theory is that the anxiety is due to two things: one the need to empty one's bladder, and two the situation: i.e. everything happening in the toilet. By removing the anxiety of needing to empty the bladder, you are left with only one source of anxiety to manage.
The beauty is that you can go back in every say five minutes and repeat the exercise, and you may well find after the fourth time that your anxiety has significantly deceased. However, just repeat as many times as needed. It is a concentrated, effective and proven desensitisation.
Cheers
Andrew
Re: Help Group
Posted by Nigel on 10/3/2016, 8:43 pm, in reply to "Re: Help Group"
Thanks Andrew, I can see the logic in the exercise, next time I'm in town or somewhere there's a public toilet I'll give it a go.
Cheers
Nigel
Re: Help Group
Posted by Paul on 20/3/2016, 8:33 am, in reply to "Re: Help Group"
Hi Nigel, I live in Berkshire and have suffered from this syndrome for over 35 years, it has caused me a lot of anxiety and discomfort throughout this time. I have only discussed it with my wife but she does not understand its implications. I would like to speak to another sufferer and maybe meet up to discuss overcoming it if you are interested.
Regards Paul
Re: Help Group
Posted by Nigel on 20/3/2016, 7:32 pm, in reply to "Re: Help Group"
Hi Paul, thanks for your post. Yeah, that would be good. I've put my e-mail so you can write to me directly if you wish.
