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desense bud

Posted by ben on 13/2/2014, 12:57 pm

Hi guys,

I'm a 26 year old guy who has had AP for the past 10-15 years.

I want to get properly on top of this over the next few months, so I'm looking for a pee buddy in Oxford or London.

Hopefully somebody else out there needs the same.

Best,
Ben

Re: desense bud

Posted by Matt on 16/2/2014, 11:17 am, in reply to "desense bud"

Hi Ben a few of us are trying to arrange a get together in London soon, perhaps you'd like to join and get to know some of us. We haven't all met up before, so you're more than welcome. The more the merrier!

There's a thread a few down from this one that I started, "my story/reaching out/london pub invite" you can contact me through that, send me an email and I'll include you in any plans to meet.

I also recently wrote up my experience of the beginners workshop; you can read it through and if you haven't been on one I'd recommend you sign up asap.

Hopefully hear from you soon,
Matt

(ps. I'm 29, you're doing great to get a handle on this at 26, I wish I had!)

Re: desense bud

Posted by Carl on 17/2/2014, 9:01 pm, in reply to "Re: desense bud"

Hi Ben, if you can come and meet with us next week, as Matt says, that would be cool, otherwise please get in touch and I'm sure we can work around your times.

Re: desense bud

Posted by mark on 6/4/2014, 2:10 am, in reply to "desense bud"

Hi Ben

I live in London and have a similar story to you (age 27 and had AP for around 15 years), also looking for desense buddy.

Do you live in London or Oxford?

Thanks,
Mark

Re: desense bud

Posted by Matt on 8/4/2014, 7:32 am, in reply to "Re: desense bud"

Hi Mark and Ben, there's a group of us regularly getting together in London to desense, it's a good crowd and no pressure to do anything your not comfortable with, in fact sometimes I just go to grab a pint and catch up with the guys. It's all ages, but there's me at 29 and another guy younger than me also.

Since starting a regular meet like this I've come a long way and I recommend you try to join us if only to say hi.

you can get my email address from my previous post or ask Andrew (support email at the top of the page)
Hope to hear from you soon,
Matt

Re: desense bud

Posted by B on 8/2/2016, 3:24 pm, in reply to "Re: desense bud"

Are either of you still looking?

I am in Oxford and keen, also have a very similar situation

B

Re: desense bud

Posted by Karl on 9/2/2016, 10:15 am, in reply to "Re: desense bud"

They will find a desensing bud for you. It is really worth going and you have absolutely nothing to worry about. Take it from someone who's been to a workshop.

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Posted by Dave on 5/4/2016, 6:04 pm, in reply to "Re: desense bud"

Hi all, I'm another Londoner looking to get a handle on things. Aiming for the next beginners workshop. Is the (pub) group mentioned above still meeting? Because if so, if you'd have me, would be keen to come say hi. I realise it's probably better to go on a workshop first but I'm not that bad with my AP - can go maybe 50% of the time in a busy gents so long as I'm properly tanked up and if there's dividers. And there's no time like the present...

Re: desense bud

Posted by Mark on 23/8/2016, 12:33 am, in reply to "Re: desense bud"

Hi B, yes I am still looking for a desense bud, are you in London?

Thanks

Re: desense bud

Posted by Robert C on 25/5/2016, 9:58 am, in reply to "desense bud"

hi I'm 54 and live in Herefordshire, it's years since I last attended a follow on workshop and rather than do another one I want to find buddies to practice desensing. My business life has gone up a notch in the last year or two and I'm regularly needing to make trips to America and Australia, this raised my anxiety levels, I'm not back to square one with paruresis but do need to work on desensing again which is not easy to do alone.

I'm prepared to travel long distance for weekend meetups with well organised groups.

Re: desense bud

Posted by Karl on 26/5/2016, 1:08 pm, in reply to "Re: desense bud"

Hi Rob.

I live in Monmouthshire if you wanted to meet up here?
I'll ask Andrew to give you my details.

Karl

Re: desense bud

Posted by Karl on 9/6/2016, 5:25 pm, in reply to "Re: desense bud"

Me and Rob met up.

We had a long chat as advised by Andrew and both needed the gents
later on so went to one in the shopping centre.
There was only two urinals so we were together and another man who came
in at the same time waited behind us.
I went right away and Rob started about 20 seconds after. We were both
pleased seeing as we hadn't planned this

After i left Rob i went for lunch in Macdonalds and went to the
facilities. Typically there was nobody there!
I just stood there faking for about 15 seconds and then decided to find
another place.I then went around the corner only to find the one there was 20p to use.I decided to desense by myself as i thought why waste an opportunity in a different town!
I ended up at Tesco but i was alone there too. Still, i decided to void
a little. When i washed my hands someone came in (sod's law!).
I then went to an awful shopping centre because my
urgency got high. Again, i was alone so i voided some more. When i got
back into the precinct someone went in there again (double sod's law!)
I then went to another and again i was alone!!! I emptied this time.
I will point out that at each of these visits i voided straight away
whereas before the workshops i wouldn't of been able to for fear of
someone walking before i had started and then not being able to go so
positive news there!

Re: desense bud

Posted by Robert C on 4/8/2016, 3:58 pm, in reply to "Re: desense bud"

Karl and I have been meeting for a couple of hours desensing every fortnight in Monmouthshire. This has the makings of a formal organised group although at present we organise informally. We welcome new members.

Re: desense bud

Posted by Frank on 26/9/2016, 5:52 pm, in reply to "Re: desense bud"

Hello Robert I also live in Hereford and would like to join a support group. What is the procedure for making contact?

Re: desense bud

Posted by Karl on 28/9/2016, 10:06 am, in reply to "Re: desense bud"

Hi Frank, i am Rob's desense bud.

We would both really like to team up with you if it is possible.

You can email Andrew and get him to exchange yours and my email addresses privately or you can wait to hear from Rob whom i have text to read your message asap.

Regards

Karl

Re: desense bud

Posted by Karl on 28/9/2016, 11:14 am, in reply to "Re: desense bud"

You can also ask Andrew to give you my mobile number privately too Frank.

Re: desense bud

Posted by Robert C on 28/9/2016, 1:29 pm, in reply to "Re: desense bud"

hi Frank

my email address is listed alongside this post, please put UKPT somewhere in the subject line of an email to me.

Karl and I had a desensing day yesterday, we both maintained progress, our fortnightly desensing days are making a real difference to my confidence levels in what were previously very stressful, embarrassing situations at the gents.

Re: desense bud

Posted by Robert C on 28/9/2016, 1:41 pm, in reply to "Re: desense bud"

Note: my email address is visible via the small icon next to my name ^

Re: desense bud

Posted by Robert C on 12/10/2016, 5:02 pm, in reply to "Re: desense bud"

Karl, Frank and myself had a desensing day in Wales today, ended with lunch at a Wetherspoons pub where the 'facilities' are just perfect for maximising privacy. Excellent day, I'm making definite progress.

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