U.K. PARURESIS TRUST

UK paruresis trust

This Discussion Board is for men who find it difficult or impossible to urinate in a public or social situation. Women should use the women's Board.
The Board is maintained and moderated by the U.K. Paruresis Trust. Registered Charity no: 1109541.For further information, visit our website, or contact us at

[ RETURN TO MESSAGE INDEX PAGE ] [ POST A REPLY TO THIS MESSAGE ]

Help!!

Posted by Bert on 19/3/2012, 10:10 pm

I am 25 and have been suffering with this since primary age gradually getting worse through college, university and work. I am worried that as I am going on holiday with my partners family (mostly men) in a few months that I am going to end up in situaions that I have avoided for a long time (my symptoms are much worse when in a public bathroom with people I know or where I know people are waiting for me). I have been reading these forums for 4 years and have tried the techniques to no avail. Help??

Re: Help!!

Posted by Tom on 19/3/2012, 11:31 pm, in reply to "Help!!"

Bert as a fellow sufferer of a similar age, I can empathise with your situation. It was not until January this year that I myself started owning up to the condition and went on a workshop. It have shown me that it is a slow road to recovery, but gave me the confidence to confront it, and all that it entails. I am leaps and bounds from where I started, and feel more able to cope with situations I previously avoided.

In my opinion you have a few options:
1. You go and cope as you have before
2. Tell someone, this is difficult and not for everyone but can help relieve some on that pressure.
3. Sign up to a workshop (I know it is nerve-racking, but I promise you it is worth it)

Sorry I can't offer you a quick fix, but if you ever find one please don't hesitate to contact me.

All the best

Tom

Re: Help!!

Posted by Mark L on 20/3/2012, 10:53 pm, in reply to "Re: Help!!"

Hi Bert,

You've been on here 4 years and never signed up to a workshop? Get on it! Nothing to loose and everything to gain. It'll be worth it.

In the mean time, dont get yourself worked up and anxious about the trip as this will set you up in the wrong way. Telling people can help, but if its quite a few people then it may not be the best way. It all depends on how you feel about it.

If you want piece of mind and a gauranteed way of going, see your GP asap and get an appointment with a urologist to obtain some catheters. Quick, easy to use with only disscomfort to deal with. Chances are you wont ever need to use them as having them on you reduces the anxiety anyway.

All the best,

Mark

Re: Help!!

Posted by Mike T on 23/3/2012, 7:59 pm, in reply to "Re: Help!!"

Hi Bert

I'd seriously recommend you attend a workshop, it can only help. I'm available for a chat if you like, just drop us an email. Might help you to relax a bit.

Best wishes, Mike

« Back to index

631

[ U.K. PARURESIS TRUST ]

UNITED KINGDOM PARURESIS TRUST WEB SITE