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Went out last night with my mate Pete, a (very good) recovering AP, last night for a meal and desense. Managed 3 trips to the urinals with only a slight hesitation - this is normal of course. The set up; There are dividers in between each of the 5 urinals, which are well spaced apart. Be patient, I'll get to the bridge bit in a minute!!!
After a quick coffee at Pete's, I commenced my 45 minute journey home via a different route (this is my satnavs fault!!!). Anyway, after about 10 minutes I started getting the urge..... after about 10 minutes and 45 seconds, I really got the urge So, eyes on 'safe place' alert, I desperately looked for a suitable sheltered area..... not to be seen though Finally, not able to hold anymore, I yanked on the brakes, pulling slighty off the roadside by, you guessed it.... A BRIDGE As I started to unzip, a car came round the corner but, I was so desperate to go I didn't care.....come to think of it, a herd of elephants could have come round the corner and I still wouldn't have cared (not that there are any elephants in Suffolk!)
A very relieving and happy moment for sure. If there is any evidence that the workshops help, this is it!! Not sure if Andrew and Colin intendid for me to pee off a bridge though!!! You've created a monster
Pete, everything you say about the workshops is true. I've done stuff I'd never have attempted before going on the London Beginners.
I've peed twice in Debenhams which was a complete no go for me as I felt so exposed in there. What's more, when another guy came in, he chose a cubicle rather than stand next to me at the other urinal!! Am I another monster? I don't think so. But I am soooooooooooooo much more secure as a man for having been to London.
If it's a rail bridge watch out for the live wire or rail!! (And don't follow this with 'off the diving board of the swimming pool', that's a very old joke).
More seriously, very well done indeed and to Geoff for 'doing Debenhams' I know just what this is like, you are both right to feel so pleased.
To say that you are now more able to pee in public is stretching the term "in public" a bit far. A bridge in France - fine; in England.....?
But seriously; this implies that the higher your urge to go, the more likely you are to actually go irrespective of the situation. That has to be a bomb-proof insurance policy.
WAY TO GO PETE !! What progress in such a short time! I am really pleased for you mate. Think back just seven days to last Friday, before your workshop. And now look at you! Fan-bludy-tastic! I am glad you and all the gang from last weeks workshop are making good progress, and from your postings, it seems you all actually enjoyed yourselves! You all certainly looked as if you did at the time! Thanks again for making last weekend enjoyable for me, too. Colin
So, eyes on 'safe place' alert, I desperately looked for a suitable sheltered area..... not to be seen though 