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Well, I'm interested in what everyone's next target is.
At the moment I'm alright if I'm at 10/10 and the bathroom is quiet and the toilet is one on the floor to ceiling door types. My target at the moment is to go in a toilet that's got the type of doors that leave a little gap (why do they do that!)
So what about yours?
I'm hopefully going to get to a workshop, so maybe that will bring things on a bit.
Woop.
Re: Your target...
Posted by Jan on 24/9/2008, 9:40 pm, in reply to "Your target..."
Hi JamesC,
Well, what i discovered at workshops is that naturally a next target or goal is something you want to achieve, but in very very small steps. The trick is to get comfortable in a situation you're sure it will be ok 100%. What i did (and do) is take a very small next step, like using the same type of cubical, but at a busier time, or in a busier place. For example i went to a nearby shopping mall during a weekday in the middle of the day, next i went on a saturday, see what i mean? Take small steps, if the next step does not work, take one step back.
You'll get there.
Jan
Re: Your target...
Posted by Raymond on 25/9/2008, 6:11 pm, in reply to "Re: Your target..."
Jan is absolutely right. Tiny steps forward is the way to success. It started that way for me at a workshop, and now I have progressed beyond all of my dreams.
Last weekend I was at the Goodwood Revival..............140,000 people all in one place! That's a lot of toilet stops, had no misfires at all even using urinals. If the situation is too "hot" for me I allow myself to use a cubicle, but mostly aim (pun) to use the urinals.
This is a big contrast to my first visit to the same event a few short years ago, it was hot, and I dehydrated due to keeping fluid levels down. Was ill for three days.
This year (thanks to just one workshop) I was drinking pints with the lads, with no problem afterwards. My life has been transformed.
Do yourself a favour, do a workshop. It will be the best decision of your life!