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Feedback on London improvers workshop – London July 08
Posted by Francois on 20/7/2008, 7:07 pm
Round 2: Francois 2 - AP 0 ☺ And an other success for the association UKPT. Thank you so much to Andrew and Colin. Thank you as well to Ian, Pete, James and Roman, who help to make this a great week end as well.
Let’s rewind a bit, few months ago, when I attended the beginners’ workshop in October 07. After 2 days, I found out that: - I was not alone with AP - AP was curable (what?)
The progress I made during that week end convinced me that I had the technique to cure myself on my own. Yes, of course we were told to attend the improvers’ workshop but what for? What more? I just needed to work on it myself, I thought. Easy. Few months later, a little reminder from the association, they know it is time for me to go back and I don’t: I have got so much to do and so little week ends available ☺. I lost control on my priorities. I hesitate. “Ok Ok, I will attend the one in July.” I told myself. “I will see. May be it will be beneficial after all”.
Here we are, Friday the 18th of July. Strange but I am quite excited about attending this workshop. I enter the room. I recognize faces, there are new ones as well. We are all relaxed: we’ve been here before. Let’s the game begins ☺ I start where I left last time: using the cubicles only.
Even if the workshop structure is very identical it feels like it is all new: this time, we are the players! The workshop is just amazing. The penny drops: the first workshop was an eye opener, this time is the real workshop and it pays off: I have left friends tonight (we have helped each other, laugh together for the last two days) and, on my way back home, I used the urinal successfully in a busy London superstore!...
Oh yes, I have still got a lot to do but hey, what a start ☺ (a smiley face on my calendar).
For those who haven’t attended the beginners’ workshop yet, well, give it a try? You have so little to lose in comparison to what you can win. For those who should attend the improvers’ workshop and hesitate, well, give it a try? What have you got to lose in comparison to a life changing reward that is waiting for you? Like everything in life, the choice is yours ☺
Well, that’s it for tonight. One thing is sure: I will attend the next workshop.
A bientot Francois
Re: Feedback on London improvers workshop – London July 08
Just like my reaction on the first workshop, i can do nothing but agree with Francois his lively report about last weekend. Oh yes, we think we're doing ok and have doubts about joining an improver's workshop. Oh sure we think it's sort of under control, so why go back?
Well, very simple, because it shows that there is more work to be done!
A workshop is not a magical tablet you swallow to cure AP, it's more a prescription, and you make the medicine yourself.
It was a nice weekend among friends, lots of laughs and good times but serious enough to remind us why we are there. Yes there is work to be done, but it can be done! That's why we go to the workshop!
I will definitely enroll for the next improver's.
So not sure to attend a beginner's or improver's workshop? Stop the doubt, go and check it out, you won't be disappointed!
Success and all the best
Re: Feedback on London improvers workshop – London July 08
A few words to endorse fully what Francois and Jan have said so eloquently.
I went to a Beginners' Workshop in May,(and if you need encouragement to attend one, look back at my comments at the time) and thought "That's it. I can now manage on my own". But Andrew's insistence that an Improvers was all part of the treatment persuaded me to go to one. A wise decision, and, if you're in doubt don't hesitate any longer. You will benefit enormously, psychologically and practically.
By practising in real-life situations ycu will be more able to live everyday life with confidence, and by meeting some more people with the problem and talking openly and freely with them you will get a great boost. The huge burden of feeling alone, which I had carried for a lifetime, has gone, and I find it easy to talk about the issue with relatives and friends - probably till I bore them to death!
The icing on the cake is that I am flying, for the first time in my 84 years, to Cornwall in September to my eldest grandson's wedding, something I was making every possible excuse not to do only six months ago. Recommendation enough, I think.
Many, many thanks to UKPT and all those great guys (and one brave woman) that I have met and talked with. You have helped to transform my life.
Pete.
Re: Feedback on London improvers workshop – London July 08
Francois I think I was with you on the first course in October. It is good to hear you are making progress. I too did the improvers course but in Manchester, I too made good progress and while I am not perfect I am doing pretty good.
To anyone who reads this and has not been on a course yet I can only say ......Email Andrew today and get yourself on the list, you won't regret it
Re: Feedback on London improvers workshop – London July 08
glad as well to hear that you are making good progress. It definitely helps to gain back some confidence, even during the day to day life, isn't it? May be see you again in an other improvers workshop :-)
Bye
Re: Feedback on London improvers workshop – London July 08
When is the next workshop? I realised recently that paruresis is really restictly my life. Well, actually I ve always known really, but listening to a friend the other day made me realise and now I just want to get it sorted and be normal! I ve just become so used to it. I ve had this since I was about 14 and now I'm 22. I ve missed out on so many events in my young life because of this, the paranoia and it doesn't help when you have a weak bladder either. I ve been on various drugs for it with a little improvement, but nothing really major. I always thought I was doing the best I can, with the various drugs treatments, but really I havn't been doing anything about it now for 2 years. It's always been ''Oh, I'll try that sometime'' but I never do. I don't even know why thinking about it.
