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Well I did the USA flight again... We got delayed 2 hours on the plane sat at the Gate... then a 9 hour flight on top of that. You can imagine my panic as we sat idle at Gatwick awaiting to push away from the gate. My wife and daughter were great. I as always dehydrated myself to take my approach of nothing in nothing out, which I know is not good. I lasted 9 hours of the 11, before attempting a visit to the loo, I had drank in between the flight and thought well only 2 hours left and If I cannot go then I can hold on as the urge wasn't really great. As always I got myself worked up, but took on board those valuable lessons and advice given during the workshop, relax, this bog is mine for as long as I want it for!! It seemed like ages but probably a minute but hey presto, got there phew. Now for the next leg, the 3 day meeting at our coporate office...arrgh. It turned out that due to not drinking enough and the heat I developed a urinary infection... just what I needed with this! However, again I survived, got some tablets to cure the infection, despite having it through the 3 day meeting, I mentioned I had this to my colleagues whom where most understanding and in truth, I put the urges down to the infection, a struggle to start and burned like hell but I went, once I went once, the mental block of what if I can't went away, because I did, if that makes sense.
On the way home I went on the plane 3 times, every damn time I went was there turbulence, nothing better to put you off!! Again I used the same mentality the Bog's Mine! and just stayed there until I went, but I went eventually.
The point is, I seem to get these attacks when not in my comfort zone, i.e. in a stuation I am not in control of, a passenger on a plane... But all of us suffer this in one form or another with differing levels, the advice Andrew and those of UKPT is so Excellent, that you must REMEMBER what you learn on a workshop and continue to apply it, I will no doubtably have Mis-Fires again but I am determined to mentally remember all those times I faced up to all those times I was panic stricken and despite that I succeeded. It's so so is mind over matter, you may struggle or strain with this condition but it is us as individuals whom eventually do pee in these situations and try and stay focused on all those successes, I will no doubt be in a flap again in the near future but the UKPT puts everything back into perspective and to all of you out there Good Luck, don't panic and happy peeing!!
I do need to you to attend a Follow Up workshop. All the guys who do so say the Beginners opened their eyes, but the Follow Up really moved them forward (see the post above).
The pity is that because you were able to use the plane loo on the way back, you would have been able to do on the way out as well, if you had not dehydrated. Then you would not have got an infection either.
Could you take an internal flight Stansted to somewhere like Edinburgh and back, just to get on top of this?
But get yourself along to the Follow up workshop in November. That's an order :-)
as Andrew said, the Follow Up Workshop can help us to reinforce our information we have got on our Beginner's Workshop.
Andrew You made me laugh with Your last sentence. Sometimes I wish I would have had a sergeant who order me to practice.
Peter, I know Your condition, I had the same. My record was a 24 our trip without peeing. It was terrible, but I survived and You survived too, so You are very strong to achieve the next Workshop.
Our AP, as one of us mate said a long, sometimes lonely way with ups and downs. Nowadays I am down, but I am on my way to my recovery.
Anyway. It was a quite funny story yesterday. I had been invited to a party at a local pub of a very small village. I drank two beers, and after a while I felt a good urgency. So I went toward the toilet. I had to turn on the light, which was outside of the door. Entering the toilet, the two urinals one cubical set received me. I stood at one of the urinals, started to pee. The well known idea and tension (You must know it ): what if someone come in? At that time the light went off. I was peeing in the dark, the light came back, and someone entered the toilet. He stood next to me, he was very drunk and was apologizing for the darkness while I tried to keep on peeing. I started to laugh and initialized a short conversation with him. Before the Workshops I had not thought I would laugh in public toilet.
Sometimes I wish I would have had a sergeant who order me to practice.