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Well I seem to be getting myself worked up again about flying long distance. I went to the workshop last year prior to doing a long distance flight and I am pleased to say was very successful with no hang ups. The workshop is and was great. SO why do I doubt myself again? I went on a short flight a month ago, (On Business) didn't need the loo, so didn't visit! Was not bothered about using the urinals especially around Budapest, quite surprised myself, and yet I've got this sicky pit feeling in my stomach about this pending flight/s.
Thing is I am unsure of the feelings I have, excitement at going back to the USA and the flight, but this time there's a twist, I need to visit my parent company with 3 colleagues!! I'm flying early to avoid flying to the USA with Colleagues and instead I'm flying with my family. In a few days after arriving I jump on an Internal flight and leave them there for 2 days, enjoying themselves, whilst I do business (Another 2 hour flight away) and return afterwards. Now this is something I have done before (Last Year) but I merely dropped into the office to say Hello, there was no official visit as such, but this time there is. I purposely went to the toilets at the office to Gauge there layout and went with no problems, but my BIGGEST fear (Including that 9-10 hour flight)is not being able to go at the Office, they are not laid out nice at all, one urinal and one toilet, and the toilet wall is about a foot high off the ground - Nightmare. Whilst it is hot there at the minute, my usual trick is nothing in nothing out, which gives me time to calm myself down and become comfortable before I get the urge to go, but with 85% humidity this isn't a good idea! Thing is I probably will be alright, but there is always that element of doubt and fear, and the UKPT have always given me strength and focus, which is becoming blurred at present.
Re: He we go again...
Posted by Andrew on 16/6/2008, 2:47 pm, in reply to "He we go again..."
Hi Peter
I was impressed on the workshop with the way you described how you dealt with people who came to you with weak proposals for spending company money.
I wonder if you could treat your Boo Monster the same way. It is like a con-man, weaving a spell of how you will get into trouble; that only it knows what will happen, and unless you do what it says (avoid, worry) you will get into trouble.
Sit down at your desk, visualise that con man across the desk from you; he is trying to con you very persuasively; give him a hard time. A really hard time!
As for your trip, instead of avoiding the toilets at the airport, on the plane and at work, take the opportunity to go visit them frequently when you do not need a pee, and fake it i.e. go through the motions and get accustomed to being there.
Thirdly, sit down and slowly go through your memory of the successful pees you have had in various places: relive the occasions, and what made it work for you then.
When you have done that, visualise yourself doing the same in the places you are going to. As does Tiger Woods and all other top players, see yourself doing what you want to do, practice it in your mind.
On the day, allow yourself as much time as you need.
Your clarity on explaining and quelling my irrational behavior as always works. I must admit your advice is a good tactic to use, and I will apply it.
I'm traveling Thursday, so the days clock down, My daughter and wife, as usual are excited, but mine is mixed emotions which I cannot unravel. There's the fear factor, I was so positive, I should as I always state use my own PMA.
Thanks for your support as always.
I'll be in touch if I need on Thursday here's hoping all goes well..