Posted by Karl on 23/11/2017, 10:34 am, in reply to "Re: Having trouble with mindset and gradual exposure"

What i do if i find myself in an empty bathroom when desensing is to let a small amount of urine out and wait until someone comes in and stands in the vacinity. Seeing as you are holding urine in your bladder or even in your penis, you should be ready to let it out anytime so when someone is near by you may be able to go automatically. Regarding a hierarchy plan, maybe 10 bathrooms is too many to start off with? Write down at home a description of each bathroom, for example: Mall bathroom: 10 small urinals with dividers Work bathroom: 5 urinals without dividers Bar: 3 troughs Public convenience: 7 big urinals with dividers Freeway services: 20 small urinals without dividers You can code this in a diary by initialling each one, for example: M.B: 10 s.u.w.d W.B: 5 u.w.d B: 3 t's P.C: 7 b.u.w.d F.S: 20 s.u.w.d Begin using the one's you find less intimidating or plan your route like a map by listing the one's closest together, for example: Use the bathroom at work, drink some water for about 30 minutes before lunch, go out for lunch, use a public convenience, have lunch, and finally go to a public convenience within 10 minutes prior to returning to work after you have had your drink and your level of urgency has risen. If you think you can try something like this then have a go.

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