Posted by Conor on 3/5/2017, 9:13 pm, in reply to "Latency"

Karl, a big thank you for your posting. I went on workshops in January 2012 and November 2012, and found them both amazing, but have very much fallen off the wagon since. I let deceasing slowly slip away, and my safety behaviours crept back in. I found the workshops brilliant for enabling me not to care whether I went or not and, of course, as soon as I managed that I went successfully virtually every time. I notice even my language here has slipped back to the attitude that is holding me back - 'successfully'. That's what is so helpful to me about your posting. It's not about being able to pee every time - it's about self-acceptance and staying chilled and not caring. I realise from reading your post that my latency is my biggest hurdle. I find it very hard not to feel judged, even threatened, by the men around me. (Rationally, I know this is ridiculous.) Your repeated 'and that was okay' comments inspire me to 'step up to the plate' for myself and to desense even when perhaps my urgency isn't high. I could go on but I'll finish with a request to anyone reading this - have others out there found their success (in self-acceptance and lower anxiety levels, not just in being able to urinate) tapering off after a while, and do you have any advice for a fellow traveller? (I have considered going for a third workshop - has anyone out there done that? How did you find it? I'm from Ireland, so with flights the weekend becomes quite expensive; so alternative suggestions are welcome too.) Anyway, thanks again, Karl. Conor.

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