Posted by Andrew on 12/12/2016, 1:30 pm, in reply to "another question to Karl (or anyone could answer me)"

Hi Nick All these workshop terms must seem mysterious. A person who has paruresis goes into a toilet with no plan, and is a victim of whatever happens in there. A pilot does not go into a cockpit with no plan; s/he goes through a sequence of tasks to prepare to fly the plane. So we are referring to having a plan that you do every time. For instance, when deciding to go to the toilet, pause and breathe deeply and slowly; then walk calmly with head up to the toilet. Go in, choose where you are going and keep your eyes on your destination (this urinal, that cubicle). When in place, breathe deeply and slowly again, relax shoulders, legs, belly. Give yourself permission to take a long as it takes. This routine is an example; make one of your own. Anyone else got their own example? Andrew

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