Posted by Pete on 23/8/2015, 7:59 pm, in reply to "Really need help with my paruresis."

Dan, You can see from this website that you are one among many men who have this difficulty and that it is certainly nothing to be ashamed of. If your friend thinks it funny, it's his problem, not yours ! You will see, if you read through the messages on this Board that telling mates, girl-friends or wives usually results in a sympathetic and understanding response. If you search the website you will find helpful suggestions about how to do this and I recommend you do it quite soon. You will be surprised at the relief you get that somebody knows and is not critical or judgmental. If they are, are they really the sort of people who are worth your friendship ? To tackle the problem itself read all the experiences and case histories on this Discussion Board and the website - above all, the contributions of Andrew whose advice is invaluable. And, if possible, attend one of the UKPT Workshops. I know from experience that they can be life-changing and you will find similar testimony from many men who have tried them. Above all take heart. You are young and "things can only get better" ! Best wishes, and keep in touch. Pete.

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