Posted by Andrew on 30/8/2013, 7:25 pm, in reply to "De-sensing in North-West/general rambling!"

Hi Bill Good to hear from you. It is helpful to get it all all written down, isnt it. Somehow it clears the air. Well done on tackling it and practicing in a methodical way, and for making progress. Incidentally, consider forgetting about going between two people as a goal. Nowadays you see plenty of guys holding back waiting for some space. If you can go next to someone, eventually that will be so natural that it will feed into going between people. As for going alongside someone you know. One approach is to recognise that you would chat to them in any other situation; so it seems unnatural to be silent when peeing. So consider keeping the conversation going naturally; that way you wont be conscious of a silence, he will be occupied talking, you can be relaxed and distracted by the conversation and.... bingo. As for a buddy in Manchester: most guys prefer someone they have met on a workshop, rather than a stranger, but good luck with the request. Cheers Andrew

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