Posted by Andrew on 28/9/2010, 10:31 am, in reply to "My problem"

Hi Calum Well done for getting it off your chest; it is a very upsetting condition to have as you well know. You mention being embarrassed and feeling shame. Please put shame aside: it is not your choice that you struggle to pee; it is totally out of your control and probably results from something that happened when you were very young that linked anxiety with peeing. You then got into a vicious circle of avoiding situations, so you got less used to them, so you avoided even more, and so on. The major feedback we get from guys who eventually tell a trusted friend or family member about their paruresis, is that it is no big deal to the listener, and often the listener forgets they were told about it; so it is not seen as a cause for shame or embarrassment by other people. You mention Blackpool which suggests you live in the North-west - relax, along with millions of others ;-). We are running a workshop in Manchester the weekend after next - the details are in a posting above this one. I realise this is a bit sudden, but if you could come along - it is a safe place where you will be carefully looked after, and you can start turning round this beast of a condition, in a way that is completely in your control. Email me at the support email address (see top of page) if you want to know more. Near this posting is feedback from the guys who attended the workshop in London a week ago; notice how they felt safe there. Keep in touch; we CAN sort this out for you cheers Andrew

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