Posted by Walt on 29/10/2009, 12:27 am, in reply to "Re: Paruresis---So I'm not alone"

Hey Eddie Well I will just give my reply to this thread. There are already a lot of people on this site who are very supportive and helpful. I will just hopefully give you some comfort in my reply. Someone in another thread spoke about using different excuses to cover different thoughts that go through your head and having an excuse for each thought. So for example if someone is rushing you, maybe you could say you have kidney stones or something like that. There is defiantly a reverse psychology and physical state that can take the paruresis away, it is just being at that particular point every time you need to go (impossible). If it was possible to simply put yourself into a frame of mind, or think certain thoughts and all of a sudden you start to pee, then things would be easy. I find the problem with peeing is it is a constant and ongoing problem. It's not like taking an exam; you study, take the exam, pass/fail and then hopefully never have to do it again. When I think about peeing, I think of it almost like a test, and do I really want to take that test over and over? No, so I retreat to a cubical and am lazy, sitting down or even avoiding the toilets completely. When in doubt, I just sit on the toilet until it happens. The only trouble with that is if I am at a beer festival, which is where I was this year, and the only toilets are open toilets and a few port loo singles which about 40 people are cued up for including women, then I have no chance. The bushes are an option, but very inconvenient and I’d never do it that publically whilst it is still daylight.. For me the inconvenience makes it even more frustrating, because I know I can’t pee.

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