Posted by Andrew on 19/7/2009, 5:53 pm, in reply to "Urinary problems?"

Hi John You mention that "sometimes at home when I am alone it can take a good few seconds before I start"; I would say that is normal. Guys do get hung up about the delay in starting, usually because they compare themselves to those guys who seem to be instant-go. If they compared themselves to the others who are not instant-go, then they would not feel themselves to be different. This delay, we call it hesitancy, is normal: it varies by individual, it varies with the variation in the urge to pee, and it varies even more with the situation. The problem is not the hesitancy, but what you make of it. Lets face it, is life such a rush that a few seconds extra peeing matters:-) ? You tell me! However there is no harm in being checked out by a urologist; at least if he finds nothing, you will stop thinking about that. Our advice is that if you can pee easily in what you consider to be a safe place, but get inhibited in an "unsafe" place, then it is shy bladder. Problems peeing in a safe place are more likely to be physical e.g. prostate. As for what can you do about the mindset? A workshop helps here, because you are with other guys in the same boat, and each individual seems to benefit from the group's growing understanding of how to manage the mindset. cheers Andrew

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