Posted by Andrew on 25/3/2009, 7:45 pm, in reply to "Hello from a new member!"

Hi Chelsea Good to hear from you and sure its Ok to use this board even if you come from that big island on the other side of the Atlantic ;-0 Advice? Well we have put most of it on our website to save repeating things; the link is at the top of the page; have you read it? There is so much that I could not put it all in a posting. But the main advice is to attend a workshop in the USA. Or to get CBT (Cognitive Behaviour Therapy). BTW dont fluid load until you "could not stand it any longer" That is putting pressure on you. Go when you have a good but still comfortable urge. OK one other bit of advice for your situation. Practice "faking it" i.e. make sure you do not need a pee, then go to the toilet when there are people there and go through the motions. Get used to being there. Read your mind and body and anxiety, what is happening? Learn to manage any anxiety or negative feelings. Leave the toilet and go back in 5 mins later. Do it say 6 times. Then again another day. You will know when it starts to get boring. Then fluid load, comfortably, and go in but tell yourself you are not going to pee this time. Leave and return a few minutes later; again say you are not going to pee this time; see what happens. hope this helps Andrew

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