Posted by Geoff P on 17/3/2009, 1:18 pm, in reply to "Re: childhood abuse and paruresis?"

Hi Pete, Thanks for your reply . It's a funny thing, this not being able to get on with people very well, yet desperately wanting to. I run a shift of up to 12 people at work. I get on really well with them as individuals and have no difficulty in being 'The Boss'. I organise them, take meetings, chat to them about their work as well as their home lives and problems, but put me in a room with the same people for a tea break and I feel paralysed! I just sit there not knowing what to say and wishing I could be anywhere else. I just don't ever have anything to say and if I do say something, I often go bright red at the same time, causing them to laugh and me to get hugely embarrassed . I don't know how much this affects the peeing problem. I think it's more like another branch of the same root, ie not having had an affirming childhood. But isn't it great to just be able to chat and be yourself with another guy in the same boat. Makes you feel normal. Keep in touch Pete. Cheers, Geoff .

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