Posted by Andrew on 9/3/2009, 11:07 pm, in reply to "Newbie How It All Began..."

Hi Matty Well done for getting your story out. It really does help to bring it into the open and then to get supportive responses. That guy's comment "why did you take so long" was really odd; why was he paying attention to what others going to the toilet? Unfortunately guys with paruresis get so insecure about it that they fail to recognise that anyone else would either shrug and say "who'se counting" or would go on the attack "what's it to do with you mate; you pervy or summat?" soon shuts them up. So remember; you do not need to explain or justify. "it takes as long as it takes" or "I was writing graffiti on all the walls ""guys name" times people in toilets". And no need for apologies about rambling and spelling; that what this board is here for :-) Feel free to tell some more of your story if it helps you cheers Andrew

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