Posted by Andrew on 28/1/2009, 5:29 pm, in reply to "An Open Door?"

Hi Mark Men do use cubicles to pee. We have had so much feedback from guys on workshops, and from personal experience; if a stranger comes in and finds the toilet is crowded i.e. say they would have to stand between two others; there is a 1:3 chance that they will go to a cubicle, ignore the door, pee noisily, and leave thinking nothing of it. A cubicle is just a urinal with bigger screens :-) You said "It was too embarrassing to stay for more that a few seconds, so out I went." Do not be embarrassed; again it has been shown by proper experiments that men do react to someone coming in by the flow slowing down or stopping, Obviously to varying degrees, based on the person and on the separation. No-one is interested in what you are doing, so patiently stand there and allow yourself to restart. The record for standing at a urinal doing nothing - to see what would happen - is 20 minutes, and no alarms went off! - so standing there for say 30 secs (which will feel like 5 minutes) is unremarkable. Finally guilt: you have done nothing wrong, so have nothing to feel guilty about. Instead, posting experiences like these helps others to relate and to see what can be done. The experiences of standing there waiting to start, of having the flow stop and having to restart, of not being able to start, are common to all situations, whether at home, in a cubicle , at a urinal or at a trough. Hence the lessons to be learned apply to everyone dealing with this condition. cheers Andrew

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