Posted by Andrew on 2/12/2008, 9:58 pm, in reply to "Re: pee shy and the urology department"

Hi Martin No you have NOT "bored us with your life story" :-) it is interesting and sadly only too common. Well done for deciding to go in front of your wife. You dont have to start in front of her. Start by drinking a load of water, say two pints, and waiting till you get a good strong urge (it may take up to an hour). Then ask her to be somewhere (e.g. outside the bathroom door, or even downstairs) so that you are sure you will be able to go. Make sure she is occupied, reading, watching TV. Then go, but pee only for 3 secs, so as to maintain your reservoir. Then bring her a bit closer; repeat the process with her coming closer. If your urge gets too low, wait for it to build up again. That way yo will make prgress in small manageable steps. Well done for looking after your sons. When you can go with your wife in the bathroom, perhaps you could get used to going when your sons are in the bath? If it feels natural that is. If you can do that, you will feel comfortable with your sons, and may feel able to go when they are with you in public toilets; starting with quiet ones that is ;-) And do come to a workshop. The courage is needed for booking on and turning up; the rest is much easier. the oether guys are always a great bunchL: I should know, I've met 250 of them on workshops (but not all at once)! cheers Andrew

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