Posted by Andrew on 16/6/2008, 2:56 pm, in reply to "First time"

Hi Richard Welcome! You have got the right idea about taking steps to become more comfortable with the situation at work. We use the term "faking it" which means: when you do not need a pee, you go in and go through the motions. This removes the anxiety due to the need to pee, and gives you the chance to deal with the anxiety of being there, and to get used to the movements and sounds of the place, and just as importantly, to get used to standing there with nothing happening. When you have repeated this say six times (say once every 5-10 mins), you will be so bored (instead of anxious) that you will feel more able to consider drinking and practicing peeing. The main thing is to not jump in the deep end, but to start with as easy a place as possible, and only move up a level of challenge when you can pee reliably at the lower level. There are other things to help, but they are descibed on the website, so I'll stick with this for now. Let me know what you think Andrew

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