Posted by Mike W on 27/4/2008, 4:33 pm, in reply to "telling people!"

Hi Mike, (think I met you on workshop) congrat.s on new job and keeping going with the de sensing, I'd be interested to hear how it goes with the psychologist to. Anyone who's putting themselves through de sensing gets my best wishes , I'm making slow but steady progress myself. As far as telling people goes I haven't got any brilliant ideas, I think I've told 9 people, and although they've all been sympathetic and its been a great relief to have told people about it I feel only one really got it. I have got one friend who I've got to come out with me de sensing a couple of times, as well as de sensing in his house to begin with, and that has been very useful, but I still don't think he really understands - he still thinks if I really needed to go I wouldn't be able to stop myself, despite my various explanations of how it works. I've tried to explain how it can feel like the biggest thing in my life, that overshadows everything else. I think that perhaps different people just have different capacities for understanding something like this. Some people might think that if its a fear of toilets then you can just grit your teeth and get on with it, but obviously that's not the case - it doesn't matter how "brave" you are you still can't go. Its sounds like you're doing well anyway and have a good attitude, - good luck

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