Posted by David R on 14/11/2007, 12:40 pm, in reply to "Re: When friends want to go with you to the bathroom"

Hi Again Bernardo People use all sorts of different things to think about ... the main thing is to work on being relaxed before you go in (and have a good level or urgency, if you plan to pee) and anticipate success (use your trigger - see web site, about this). The workshops (and the web site) provide ideas on how to approach this but here are a couple suggestions on thoughts while waiting for nature to take its course: - counting backwards from a large number in threes - thinking of a joke or a funny situation - inspecting / counting the tiles on the wall - concentrating on your breathing ... deeply in through nose and slowly out through pursed lips (see 'Phobease') - reading the advert / notice (if stuck up in front of you) - singing a song in your head - imagining you are on a tropical island with soft sand and gently swaying palms Anything really, but plan ahead and use it ALL THE TIME - even when you are somewhere less challenging (e.g. at home alone). The idea is to keep the brain busy so the imagination/emotions don't get a look in. Hope this helps - but do read the web site for a more structured approach. Let us know how you get on. David R

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