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I have a severe case of paruresis. Recently I have been on a training course where despite there being many toilets/cubicles (not large private ones though all 'pubic') I haven't been able to pee, even on hour long breaks. I've been getting through the 12 hours fine for the previous 3 without pain just feeling full towards the end of the day. But on the 4th day, even on the same liquid intake (give or take a few ML's I'm very precise) I got to bursting point. It was horrific and I had to excuse myself about 10 minutes before the end (bet everybody was thinking why didn't he go on break, can't he wait 10 mins?) I HAD to go....I was a bit hot and flustered when I got to the bogs then proceeded to have one giant pee, like I had been drinking 3 pints of beers or something. It was huge like 2 pee's in one I must have been in there for at least 5 minutes. I also felt really dehydrated and had to drink two cups of water straight after.
So main question here is why am I generating all this pee when my liquid intake had been the same on the previous days where I had been (relatively) comfortable? It makes things really hard to manage.
The answer to your main question can only be an educated guess. Perhaps on the previous three days your bladder fullness was only a whisker below the level that triggers an urgent need to pee; on the fourth day, it may have contained a few mls more that may have caused it to go over that level. Remember that fluid intake is only one factor in determining volume of urine; other factors being: fluid lost by breathing, talking, and sweating; nature of food consumed i.e. hidden water content, diuretic nature thereof; even body posture, tightness of belt, and fullness of bowel, all of which may put external physical pressure on the bladder.
As for your bet that everyone else was thinking..... Please recognise that this thought of yours is typical self-consciousness. Everyone has experienced being caught short at some time in their lives. And your toileting needs and actions are of no interest to others, believe me.
Please do consider seriously coming to a workshop, where you can start addressing these issues in a safe environment.