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hi there, after some 50 years i've just found out i am not alone,seems the older i get the worse my symptoms become,once there was a time when i just needed to pop into a cubicle and i could pee,my imagination seems to go into overdrive when someone enters the room now and i just shut down,just back from 17 days on the continent on the motorbikes with 4 pals sharing cramped hotel rooms with another chap,could not go when he was there, had to go in the middle of the night when i could hear him snoring,up to 6 hours on the bikes stopping at local cafes for coffee,needless to say the toilets in France leave a lot to be desired,had to plan my day pee first thing before doug woke,try to get one before set off, pee at next destination when doug was in shower,some toilets had glass doors others shutters,i could 'nt believe it,last 2 nights in Amsterdam,had to come up with an excuse to go back to the hotel cause i could not pee in the city,this has been the bane of my life,i get so angry and frustrated,it stops me from going places and socialising which effects my relationships and the constant thinking ahead,will i be able to pee in this restaurant? cant go to that party, does'nt fill you with confidence,anyway i'll keep a look out on the site,thanks Rich.
Re: Hello there
Posted by Andrew on 27/6/2013, 7:09 pm, in reply to "Hello there"
Hi Rich
Welcome to this safe place to unburden and share. What you describe is something all of us have experienced. I remember a long time ago giving two hitchhikers a lift in France; it turned out they were going to my destination, hours away across barren southern landscape. i.e. no bushes or trees to retire behind - agony!
Anyways the good news is that you can work on this and get significantly less affected by it. Read up about graduated desensitisation, and the cognitive side of things as well: its all on our website. And get onto a Beginners workshop asap; tho not till September I'm afraid.