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Hey, I posted here a long while ago as having some problems but im now learning to overcome them. (I've gone from severe paruresis to medium). I can now urinate freely at work (but not yet college) and occasionally i go in public (last week went in lakenheath army base almost by accident, had an upset stomach).
MY question to you is this. Im going to a house party in 10 days and im slightly anxious about it. from previous experiences in big houses and partys i find that if i load up on the booze im generally absolutely fine. However, this is a small house with one bathroom and 35+ people. im gonna load up on the booze and hope everythings fine, but if im getting desperate any tips anyone?
Good to hear from you, and well done for working on it and improving.
Your posting contains a mixed message: "I'm slightly anxious", and "I'm getting desperate".
The reality is that you have managed OK in the past, and you will manage OK again. The biggest problem is all the worrying in advance, cos it means you turn up at the party all in a state, and cannot enjoy it.
Can i suggest that you sit down and think of some strategies e.g.
1. The weather is hot, so if you cut down on drinking during the day, you will not need to go for quite a while.
2. can you turn up late? That cuts down the time you are there, and by the time you arrive, people are getting well oiled.
3. you mention loading up on drink: I assume cos you end up more relaxed. You can still do that or, is it worth cutting down on the drinking? It does not have to be obvious: accept a drink, but go slow. If necessary, mention an upset stomach as the reason.
4. if there are 35+ in a small house, no-one will notice if you slip away for a while. You can find a reason to do so.
5. try some shorts instead of beer; you'll get tanked up but on no volume.
Everytime you start to worry about it, deliberately stop that train of thought and think instead of the good things about it. By seeing the party in a positive light, and arriving in that positive frame of mind, you will be more confident and more able to go.
For those of you who read my previous post about being worried about going to a party, I pleasantly surprised myself! I managed to void 8 times throughout the night (Drink was involved) including outside in a bush several times, and in a toilet with no lock on the door!
Its pleasing news for me and proof that you can keep pushing yourself, I'm so glad i'm getting better and I hope you guys can do the same!