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AP and Careers

Posted by Jon on 22/9/2010, 6:54 pm

Hi

I was wondering how AP affects people's careers. Do you think it has a negative impact?

I have had AP for about 35 years and work in computing. I found that because I didn't socialise at all I spent much of my free time developing skills that were useful in my work. Because of this I became quite good at my job.

A few years ago I became a contractor and was, what I consider, very well paid (over 70K a year) due to my skill set. Even though my social isolation helped in some respects to do well, overall the condition is very debilitating so if I had a choice I would not have AP.

Has anyone else with AP concentrated on their career because they don't socialise that much and managed to advance themselves?

Thanks

Jon

Re: AP and Careers

Posted by Geoff.BT on 22/9/2010, 8:06 pm, in reply to "AP and Careers"

Hello Jon
I can really empathise with you about the social isolation of AP. I was self-employed for 30 years and made a real success of my business, working 24/7, but can't help thinking alot of it was avoidance of social occasions. It surprises me how often this seems to come up here - the number of us who have missed out big time because of AP. It reminds me that I must sign up for the next Follow-Up Workshop! (Greetings to fellow participants from Beginners in Manchester 2009). Geoff.

Re: AP and Careers

Posted by Steve# on 25/9/2010, 2:44 pm, in reply to "Re: AP and Careers"

Interesting discusion - I would say that mine has up until know been a means-to-an-end sort of thing & I have just stuck with what I know being office work. I have never had the the opportunity to work from home at all though it & perhaps because of having the condition through nearly all of my working life I sort of link it to the fact that I could have performed much better & would have been more successful without having it. I think before I knew this conidtion existed & was experiencing stress through my work I even suffered from the odd panic attack cause of it & not knowing if it was just me? In an everyday public environment like an office it makes it especially hard having in AP as you never go the same route into the toilets with fellow colleagues most of which don't even think about it but there is always going to be the one who might. You also see the 'a*se lickers' following everything that the boss does including going for a leak! Well anyway I am now not even working & have free time on my hands so lets see what my future holds Ideally having a job where you can work on your own for yourself but have the contact with others would be good & right now I don't miss office work - I have to say!

Re: AP and Careers

Posted by Stephen on 7/10/2010, 12:16 am, in reply to "AP and Careers"

Hi Jon,

I'm hopefully only part-way through my career in computing. (about 10 years so far)
Like you have done, I spend a lot of my free time working on things that help me develop technically rather than socialising.

AP makes every working day a challenge for me, and I find myself struggling with that more than any technical challenges at work.
I'd say that this has actually hindered my career slightly so far, since I'm reluctant to change to a new working environment where I might end up in a situation that I can't cope with.

As a contractor, you must have faced the problem of a frequently-changing workplace. Was/is that something that caused/causes you day-to-day problems and fears or are you able to cope with it?

Stephen

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