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Xmas holiday to London!

Posted by Aarti Sharma on 17/12/2009, 6:09 pm

Hello everyone,

My name is Aarti Sharma. I've been directed to come to this site from a women named Andrea. She is part of the women forum at www.pauresis.org.

Well, my parents, my brother and i are making a trip to London for XMAS. We will be visiting with a friend in Nottingham.

My mom understands whole heartedly about my shy bladder. My dad and brother, i think they do but it's kind of more the fact if they are receptive they will remember if not, then they won't. For both the men in my life, it's not like they don't care about my shy bladder, i just wish for them to show some concern.Concern meaning not just oh, who cares about it but more of don't stress about it's okay.

That's my family and how i connect with them about my shy bladder.

As for me, i would like to know what can i expect in London other than fact it's going to be quite cold! What are ladies room like, what are the "pee-able places in london?

I read from Andrea from www.paruresis.org, that the loos in London are pretty much are cieling to floor bathrooms, in other words the door touches the cieling and extends right to the floor, is Andrea right??

Re: Xmas holiday to London!

Posted by Andrew on 17/12/2009, 10:20 pm, in reply to "Xmas holiday to London!"

Hello Aarti

Welcome. I have asked the women I know via the UKPT to try to answer you if they can. Obviously I have no experience of women's loos!

A general point is that the more expensive department stores and hotels will have the more "comfortable" toilets.

One trick is to check out the loo on arrival, to say check your hair, then when you need it, you will know what they are like, and will not be taken by surprise.

Have a good holiday

Andrew

Re: Xmas holiday to London!

Posted by Lusy on 17/12/2009, 10:29 pm, in reply to "Re: Xmas holiday to London!"

Hi Aarti

Welcome to the board! I'm sure you're going to have a wonderful time in London (and yes, it's very cold at the moment!)

Ladies toilets are almost always floor to ceiling type doors. I have never been in one with a high door, so please don't worry about that.
Andrew mentioned a good idea though, long before you need to go, why not pop into a couple of toilets just to check your hair or whatever (no-one in your group needs to know) and have a look at the type of toilets we have here.
As a general rule, the toilets in the big stores, and eating places are usually very comfortable places...warm, safe and comfy!

Have you any plans to go any where specific in London? Harrods, for example, has wonderful toilets, but you have to pay!

Re: Xmas holiday to London!

Posted by Aarti on 19/12/2009, 1:07 am, in reply to "Re: Xmas holiday to London!"

Thank you for all your responses Andrew, Lusy and Jane.

Yes, that seems like a good idea, check the bathrooms out before eventually entering them.

Ha, good thing you noted that paying is needed for some loos.

Okay, at the risk of sounding silly does the amount you pay before enter the loo depend on how long you stay in the loo? Does anyone actually sit in the ladies loo to assist people?

My mom wants to visit Harrads.

Re: Xmas holiday to London!

Posted by Andrew on 19/12/2009, 9:32 am, in reply to "Re: Xmas holiday to London!"

Hi Aarti

No, the payment is a fixed charge! say 20 or 30 pence.

Andrew

Re: Xmas holiday to London!

Posted by Aarti on 19/12/2009, 5:03 pm, in reply to "Re: Xmas holiday to London!"

Thanks. That is good to know.

Re: Xmas holiday to London!

Posted by Jane on 18/12/2009, 9:09 am, in reply to "Xmas holiday to London!"

Hi Aarti

Toilet cubicles vary, some have partitions and doors with a gap at the top and bottom, but others are completely enclosed. All the big shops have toilets, so if you don't like one lot, there will be some more just down the road in big towns.

I occasionally use the disabled toilet, which will be completely enclosed with a washbasin in the cubicle. Some of them are locked and you need a Radar key for those - you can order online from Radar or I think they sell them at the information desk in some big shopping centres.

It depends what factors affect your problem. I don't usually have a problem in shops, as there are often lots of toilets, plenty of noise from hand dryers etc.

In restaurants, you often get just one completely enclosed toilet, but in others there might be 2 or 3 cubicles.

Public toilets are not always great, some are cleaner and more pleasant than others - shop and restaurant toilets are usually nice and clean and warm!

It is good that your family know about your problem, I'm sure you will have a great holiday. Let us know how you get on.

Best wishes from a snowy England!
Jane

Re: Xmas holiday to London!

Posted by Aarti on 30/12/2009, 5:40 pm, in reply to "Xmas holiday to London!"

Hi all,

The London trip turned out to be a good trip. It's like this, I had to get used to the loos at the house, there were two of them. The one upstairs was a bit more private compared to the loo downstairs next to the sitting room and kitchen, yeah, I hated that one! The loud conversations were enough to make me go crazy!!!

Then, there was sight seeing, I loved where the loos were located. I noticed most loos in restaurans were located upstairs. Everytime we went sight seeing, I made an attempt to try and it worked with ocassional hesistance but heck, I tried and for that I feel good!!!!

Now, I can say living in Nottingham for 6 days and getting used to the bathrooms in the house and restaurants, I can say I love my own bathroom at home in HOuston! It's like I do not care if there's the slightest noise upstairs, I do not care!
It seems like the trip to London was sort of like training for my mind. I think it helped because now that my big bro and dad are visiting home for new years, I feel less stressed after the so called training.

Re: Xmas holiday to London!

Posted by Mark L on 30/12/2009, 11:44 pm, in reply to "Re: Xmas holiday to London!"

Hi,

Glad to hear it went so well. And also well done for trying, its too easy just to avoid trying to go!

Have a good New Year,

Mark

Re: Xmas holiday to London!

Posted by Aarti on 4/1/2010, 3:29 pm, in reply to "Re: Xmas holiday to London!"

Thanks.

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